Love & Marriage
March 17, 2011 in friendship, Fun, Philosophy, women
Recently, I was talking to someone about the criteria one uses to select a mate. Sometimes this criteria seems cold, and impersonal having to do with one’s achievements in the professional world, academia and so on. Other criteria may have to do with background, same ethnicity, same religion, and so on. But selection based on explicit defined points might guarantee a successful partnership, but not necessarily a loving one.
There are two things that I’ve often thought about regarding relationships: Definition of love and the role values play.
Most of the time people think of love as a “feeling,” a passive obsession that requires nothing other than the feeling. In reality, love is a very active verb, and in order for it to manifest itself as love it has to practiced.
Values are what count. If two people have the same background, ethnicity, religion or lack of it, and a host of other sameness traits, this won’t guarantee a relationship of love. Values are what people should look at when choosing a partner. The other, coded criteria is superficial, and even though the cultural match is close, it won’t infuse love into the relationship.
People who share the same values of life, even when not sharing the superficial coded criteria, can create relationships of love and excitement that will last to the end of time. As mentioned above, love is an activity. Without shared values, love is likely to atrophy and never manifest.
by Peachy
Who Are Our Heroes Today?
March 8, 2011 in Commentary, movies, Opinions, Philosophy, This and That, Uncategorized
A dear friend sent me an e-mail to let me know that a new television program is in the works. The them is Christian Bitches. She wanted my reaction. I am an agnostic, but I am totally repulsed by just the title of this program, and it would be a definite on my not-to-watch list.
As I explained, a television show with this kind of title would be inappropriate for any group, Muslim, Jewish or any other religious group or just plain group. It always gave me a better understanding of why Christians in this country feel like they’re being persecuted. Why would the producers of this show not have featured Muslims or Jews? Is it possible that it’s OK to exploit Christian women, but it’s “politically incorrect” to exploit other women?
We have free speech, so there’s probably not much that can be done about these things except to boycott the shows. But I think the more important issue is to give this some deep thought, and ask yourselves why. Something is not right.
There’s also another show that may already be on the air about teens in sordid and vulgar situations. I so disliked the hype on this one that I can’t even remember the name. This is another thing to ask yourself…why are we doing this? Art claims it is only dramatizing real life, but I say, is this really all there is to real life? Do we not have examples of much higher standards? I know we do but this part of humanity is being ignored.
And then there’s television shows glamorizing teen pregnancy.
The list goes on and on.
Our heroes are no more. Back in the day (my day) there were movie star heroes, war heroes, good people heroes….today I can’t find any. Yesterday, there was a constant about our ability to recognize and exhibit goodness, today there is’t even an effort to do it. I know there are good people, doing good things, but their efforts are generally published and exhibited in some obscure medium or magazine…you’re never going to find them at the mall theatres. One recent exception is “Blindsided,” which was not only commercially successful, but was critically acclaimed as well.
Well, a lot of people are buying the garbage, so there’s no chance that we’ll see anything different offered in the near future.
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